Do you or anyone else you know, expect others to read their mind? This is a common trait especially with family, spouses and close friends. You lose all control of your life when you do this. You are leaving probably the most important issues and decisions of your life on the hope that the other person will know what you are thinking and feeling. Then when they don't or mis-guess, well, then there is hell to pay. Much of this comes from an underlining feeling of, If you loved me then... (Fill in the dots) Did you know that this causes you to toss away you power, confidence and the ability to communicate with others. The challenge with this, is that you are leaving yourself vulnerable to other people's wishes, beliefs and understandings. And most people misunderstand another without having the added burden of being expected to read minds. I have seen people get upset and state that their birthday was ruined because the other person, husband, boyfriend, etc., didn't do what they wanted them to do. When I ask if they told them what they wanted, I get a No, I can't do that they should have just known. Well if it is that important, then why don't you say so? Why are you leaving your happiness to someone else's guessing? I have seen this go both ways. Men have come home and said to their wives, where is such and such. Or why didnt you cook.? I left hints this morning. Think about this, the other person was probably half a sleep and you left hints. Why not just say it. When you don't speak up, you dont own your mind and you allow others to own it for you. Sometimes we just hope others will know what we want and other times we may be scared to say what we want. I was at a workshop and much of it was based in Quantum Physics and practical application. One of the important things was to be very clear on what we wanted. This one person said a job. So I started asking what kind of job. Then she said research. Well, this too is a huge field. After several more questions, she stated out loud exactly what she wanted and said that it was the first time that she had ever said aloud what she desired in a career. Many people are like this. They dont want to say and sometimes even admit what they want and just hope that others will figure it out. Or, that it will magically appear. Well, quantum physics teaches that even the universe needs a hand and that you being clear on what you want can help bring it to you. Quite often, the universe, source energy, God, whatever you wish to call it, is confused by most people's thoughts. We say we want one thing and then act or think in another manner. If we are sending out confusing and mixed signals, no one is going to know what you want. It is up to you to first, communicate with yourself, get clear, make that crystal clear with what you want, and then communicate this to the people around you. Most people will be very relieved at not having to guess anymore. One word of caution, if you are not used to speaking up, there is a good chance some people may try to stop you at first. They have gotten used to having things their way and even if they said it was annoying with you not speaking up, they would rather keep the control. That way if they do what they want, they can fall back on the, well I had to guess what you wanted. Over all though, when you take back your power and life, you will find yourself being a much happier, confident and self-empowered person. |
