Every family has years and years of stories -- happy, sad, exciting, humorous, adventurous, historic, good, bad, and ugly. These stories are often shared when the family has holiday or annual get-togethers. But, without being recorded on tape and/or paper, they are soon forgotten and never enjoyed by the following generations. Don't let that happen to your precious tales.

Begin by writing your family stories down as you remember them. And, don't be dismayed if others have a different perception of what actually happened or the worth of this work. The important point to remember is that writing down your family stories in your own manner is a great way to start and will also prove to be a wonderful experience for you.

Start with the elders in the family. Before your parents, grandparents, and/or aunts and uncles are no longer here, sit down with them and ask lots of leading questions. If you say, "Tell me your story," they will answer, "Nothing exciting ever happened to me. There's nothing to tell." If you ask thoughtful, open-ended questions about places they've lived, people they've known, teachers they've had, places they've traveled to, their remembrances of first dates, embarrassing moments, and happenings and important events that made a difference in their lives, they will fill up tapes and books with interesting stories.

Where can I find good questions to ask? Donald Davis, master storyteller of personal stories, has written an excellent book filled with thought and story provoking questions called Telling Your Own Stories: for Family and Classroom Storytelling, Public Speaking, and Personal Journaling.

Once you have the information, it's time to create the story for posterity. This is the most fun, but also the most demanding part of the storytelling and story capturing process. You will have many extra details and facts that will detract, rather than enhance, the final story. Keeping in mind the attributes of a successful story -- time, place, character(s), conflict, crisis, change, and resolution -- you will pull everything together for a story that will interest, entertain and last.

It is OK to embellish and add the emotions you felt when listening to the story for the first time. Once you have it in a tellable and/or readable form, start sharing it with others in the family at get-togethers and reunions. You will soon discover the parts that work and don't work. Make note of reactions and points of laughter and tears. Ask for feedback (don't listen to negative remarks).

Create a written version. I know that this whole process sounds time consuming and like a lot of work. It is both, but once you have these "treasures" written in final form, you and the whole family will be delighted. You can't give a better gift to family members -- beginning with the whole process of gathering and listening to the final product of sharing.

Remember, everyone in the family who takes part will be excited and proud, and, hopefully, will continue the process of capturing family stories for posterity.