Just the other day I saw a t-shirt that said:

"My anger management class pissed me off."

Learning to or having to manage your anger can be no fun.

A wake up call

You get angry, I get angry, all God's children get angry. It's what we do with our anger that makes all the difference.

Our children can be wonderfully humbling mirrors.

After a prolonged temper tantrum resulted in our son missing out on a fun event, I actually heard this coming out of my mouth:

When you decide to stay angry you can miss out on a lot of good stuff.

A true case of the pot calling the kettle black.

How to stay angry

• Focus on the event that made you angry by playing it over and over again in your head.

• Focus on the injustice of it all.

• Tell lots of people about it until you find someone that completely agrees with you.

• Refuse to accept any responsibility for the situation or look at your part or contribution.

How to move past anger

• Feel the anger and then let it go.

• Get it that life is not fair and never will be

• Take responsibility for your part in the situation.

• Consider what you can legitimately do about the situation, do it, and then move on.

Staying angry or moving on to the good stuff is your choice.

Jeff Herring

Jeff is a marriage and family therapist, singles and relationship coach, mentor coach, speaker, syndicated relationship columnist and author.

Jeff has a full time private practice in Tallahassee in which he specializes in couples, teen and parent counseling. He also is a relationship coach specializing in working with couples and singles. Some of his professional activities include:

==> Internationally syndicated relationship columnist through Knight-Ridder/Tribune Media Services, with a weekly readership of over 10 million worldwide

==> Sought after speaker for organizations, associations, churches, and corporations

==>Twice weekly appearances on The Steve and Sara Show on Magic 107.1

==> Author of "Keep the Changes: 52 Tools for Successful Living" a collection of his best columns, as well as several e-books including "How to Create a Passionate and Loving Relationship.........Forever," "How to Beat the BOZOs: Dealing with difficult people without becoming one," and "Tame Your Teen: THE survival guide for parenting your teenager.

==> Founder and CEO of TheArticleGuy.com

==> Founder and CEO of SecretsofGreatRelationships.com

==> Founder and CEO of ParentingYourTeeanger.com

==> Founder and CEO of ToolsforSuccessfulLiving.com

==> President of BuildingYourIdealPractice.com

==> President of ConsciousDatingTallahassee.com