No; Im not hearing voicesvery much, at least. However, I do have a question for you: How do you manage that little voice inside your head? Now if youre thinking, What little voice is he talking about? that would be the little voice right there!

You know, that voice that tries to convince you that something is too hard, or too painful, or too embarrassing or too risky. Yes, the same voice that might even try to tell you that youre not good enough, that other people dont like you or that you wont ever amount to anything. Your voice might even go as far as trying to convince that youre not even worthy of taking up space or having a voice, and that you are just a loser at the core.

That one voice has been THE most destructive force that I have encountered in working with people over the last 20 years. Ive seen it make many beautiful people think that they were ugly, smart people think that they were dumb and creative people think that all their creative expression was a joke.

I dont know about you, but Ive had quite enough of that voice. Its time to fight back.

And the warfare you engage in with your little voice is quite simpleas long as you keep it simple. When you hear your little voice trying to convince you of any of the limiting beliefs or distortions like the ones listed above, you can simply respond to it by saying: Thank you for sharing.

No inner power struggles, no calling yourself stupid for thinking that and no denial of what is really going on. Just those 4 simple words: Thank you for sharing.

Now lets suppose that you had a really stubborn inner voice and it get kept coming back after your self-intervention. Well, let me ask you this: If you have to say Thank you for sharing 100 times in a day, isnt that better than continually hearing that chatter get more and more powerful and destructive?

And besides, this is the beginning of you retraining your brain. Thats right; you can actually reprogram your brain to respond differently. Its called conditioning and it works just the same way that Pavlovs dog responded in the ever famous experiment that started Pavlovs theory.

Keep saying Thank you for sharing. After a while it will even start to seem funny. In fact, after a while you might even find your self saying, Hi, its you again. Have a seat and Ill listen to you when Im done living.

And just in case you were wondering; that is YOUR voice that youre hearing. Dont you think its a good time to just do a little redirection?

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Ken Donaldson

Ken Donaldson, the REALationship Coach, has been based in Tampa Bay, Florida offering counseling, coaching, and educational programs since 1987. He is a licensed mental health counselor; board certified as an addictions professional and clinical hypnotherapist; and certified as a master relationship coach. Ken is a graduate of the University of South Florida, the Institute for Life Coach Training and the Relationship Coaching Institute. He has been exclusively in private practice since 1993.

Ken is the author of the new breakthrough life and relationship success book Marry YourSelf First! Saying “I Do” to a Life of Passion, Power and Purpose. The material in this book is a result of Donaldson’s 15+ years of clinical counseling and coaching with thousands of individuals and couples. In this book, he reveals what he has discovered as the 20 core Principles of Passion, Power and Purpose. When these principles are applied to your life you can overcome self-limiting patterns and create abundant happiness, fulfillment and success in your life and relationships.

Donaldson’s primary message from this book is to “Master Your Life and Your Relationships!” Purchasers of this book are eligible for free coaching and educational programs to support and promote optimal growth and success.

Ken founded the REALationship Coaching programs empower people to have more successful lives, businesses and relationships by building a powerful relationship with themselves first.

Included are the monthly Saturday Series workshops and the REAL Talk Forums. These programs are for couples and individuals alike, and help the participants live the most passionate and balanced lives possible.

He also facilitates the Marry YourSelf First program that assists singles to have more successful relationships and more satisfying lives. The graduates of this program leave with a clear vision of who they are, what they want, and how to get it.

In addition, he offers the Partners for Life programs for both pre-committed and committed couples that provide the tools and resources to help couples create relationships that are both lasting and fulfilling. Couples report that they have deeper intimacy and more fun as a result of utilizing the tools from these programs.

Ken also offers education and training programs for businesses and community organizations on a variety of personal growth and business improvement topics.